I've been thinking about starting this thread for a while, actually ever since Knittaccino posted about her husband accusing her of alsorts as i'm not sure we had any kind of conclusion to that and sometimes with the daily thread, someone may be struggling with something real life (am thinking Buzy and her poor friends at the moment too) and it gets swallowed up with the general chit chat. No ones to blame, thats just how the daily thread works sometimes. When I was suffering my tragedy I chose to post separately and tell you all, but not everyone thinks like me (some would say thats a blessing!)
So, anything troubling you that needs our full attention, post it here and that way if anyone gives advice or has a vested friendly interest in what happens, we can trace it here much more easily than trying to trawl through 3 days of knitty natterings.
Hope no one minds i've taken the lead here, but it is something i've been thinking about for a while.
Me? well, thankfully all is quiet on the western front xxxx
I was going to start a similar thread today Giddy, well done.
In particular reference to poor Buzy and her very ill friends, I sometimes find that to continue with the normal daily banter on the other threads is slightly insensitive iykwim, it can feel that by chatting away about normal things that we are not taking your feelings into account Buzy...and that couldn't be further from the truth xxxxxx
Great to have this thread, somthing similar to the positivity thread in a way, but more of a discussion and comment platform
Anyway, to kick off - I'd just like to re-iterate what everyone said yesterday, that I hope Rich gets some relief from his suffering and hopefuly if they still haven't a bed for him at the hospoice that they would at least assign him a hospice nurse for home. We will be going to the church today to light some candles and will include one for him and his family xxxxxx
As I'm still a 'newbie', I feel I've walked in at the middle of the movie and I'm still trying to workout who all the characters are ..... and what's the plot?
Dreamy I've often felt as you do - that normal life becomes somehow trivial when someone is suffering a personal tragedy.
Buzy I do hope they get a place for him today as well. My sis was lucky they got one almost right way for her DH in the hospice around the corner from where she lives but not sure if its because she lives in London and there are more facilities? Still thinking of you xxx
Well with the scan I will post back later so fingers crossed x
As I'm still a 'newbie', I feel I've walked in at the middle of the movie and I'm still trying to workout who all the characters are ..... and what's the plot?
Sue you won't be long catching up xxx and don't disappear! it's lovely to have a new 'voice' on here
Well that's the way I felt about Ciara when she died from the clot, I just felt the daily thread wasn't the place for it, for everyone elses sake, so I see where you were coming from when your Dad died Giddy.
And also the situation with Knittachino is very worrying and deserves not to be squashed in with recipes and snails iykwim
Sue you won't be long catching up xxx and don't disappear! it's lovely to have a new 'voice' on here
Well that's the way I felt about Ciara when she died from the clot, I just felt the daily thread wasn't the place for it, for everyone elses sake, so I see where you were coming from when your Dad died Giddy.
And also the situation with Knittachino is very worrying and deserves not to be squashed in with recipes and snails iykwim
i too sometimes feel that i cant post after some news.... i just read and muse on things as often i can not add to what everyone says on here bar my hugs and thoughts
great idea here tho for seperating from general chattiness
hospices are wonderful places now my depression is a bit more controlled and my grief has subsided i am volunteering to work at the hospice. depression wise ok saw my doctor today now he says i have to get my eating probs sorted and eat a bit better might help me lose weight too no more binging and starving
I think this is an excellent idea as well.
Buzy: really thinking of you at the mo xxxxx
Laura: glad things are slowly looking up for you. Going to see the doctor is definatly a good step too, I hope things continue to get better for you xxx
Laura I didn't realise you were trying to overcome depression or that you had been bereaved ((((hug)))) well you've a great bunch of mates here to listen to your woes whenever you feel like venting....personally I'd be lost without them. Hope you continue to come out the right side of all that has happened xxx
thanks hun yes i do suffer depression have done most my life plus epilepsy so bit cronky all round lol!! after mum died 14 years ago dad and i got very close i spent a lot of time with him and did a lot for him, i think what hit me most was not only losing dad but the family home having to be sold i have never ever lost that feeling of not belonging since. as i say my marriage is not that happy but due to things we just soldier on. what makes it worse is my husbands son is married to my daughter if you can follow that! what made it harder when we split up for a while was seeing my granddaughter and daughter. alan my OH could not cope with my grief so left me i was devestated got in with bad people who injured me one night so i ended up in hospital and got me drinking heavily whereas since i was younger i stopped drinking as i had a few problems. this was all such a lot to cope with one night i tried to take my own life and when i came round after i left hospital alan asked me to come back. at times i am so unhappy being with him and he with me we often think of leaving but deep down we have feelings just abuse and pain since i was 2 years old has made it hard to be in a relationship. i have come a long way no drinking no self harming as i said just need to sort this eating out its a major thread on its own and i just wish i could solve the probs i have with eating sorry to go on xx
